Mom- ” Jacob, you have to finish your plate before going to the park “
Jacob- “No”
Mom- “Jacob tidy your room”
Jacob- ” No “
The “no” phase is a familiar phenomenon for parents with young children.
Although the child’s opposition can create frustration for us and even lead to conflict within our household, this “no” allows the child to develop.
Children need to learn that there are requirements (e.g. parental instructions) and that it is possible to do things differently. These are the beginnings of assertiveness. It’s a long process that will continue throughout their youth.
Of course, with the help of caring parenting practices, the parent can teach the child that, although he or she may do otherwise, it is to their advantage to respect the instructions given.
By saying “no”, the child also integrates the love and attention they receive from their parents…even when they oppose them.
In the long term, these behaviors can become disturbing for parents. Some parents have the impression that the child is opposed to everything. And yet, they sometimes do what they’re told…what a contradiction!
In this kind of situation, a social worker can help you understand your family dynamics and support you in your parenting practices.
